2 Samuel 14:21-33

2 Samuel 14:21-33

[21] And the king  said  unto Joab,  Behold now, I have done  this thing:  the young man  Absalom  again.  [22] And Joab  fell  to the ground  on his face,  and bowed  himself, and thanked  the king:  and Joab  said,  To day  thy servant  knoweth  that I have found  grace  in thy sight,  my lord,  O king,  hath fulfilled  the request  of his servant.  [23] So Joab  arose  to Geshur,  and brought  Absalom  to Jerusalem.  [24] And the king  said,  Let him turn  to his own house,  and let him not see  my face.  So Absalom  returned  to his own house,  and saw  not the king's  face.  [25] But in all Israel  there was none  to be so much  praised  as Absalom  for his beauty:  from the sole  of his foot  even to the crown of his head  there was no blemish  in him. [26] And when he polled  his head,  (for it was at every year's  end  that he polled  it: because the hair was heavy  on him, therefore he polled  it:) he weighed  the hair  of his head  at two hundred  shekels  after the king's  weight.  [27] And unto Absalom  there were born  three  sons,  and one  daughter,  whose name  was Tamar:  she was a woman  of a fair  countenance.  [28] So Absalom  dwelt  two full  years  in Jerusalem,  and saw  not the king's  face.  [29] Therefore Absalom  sent  for Joab,  to have sent  him to the king;  but he would  not come  to him: and when he sent again  the second time,  he would  not come.  [30] Therefore he said  unto his servants,  See,  Joab's  field  is near  mine,  and he hath barley  and set  it on fire.  And Absalom's  servants  set  the field  on fire.  [31] Then Joab  arose,  and came  to Absalom  unto his house,  and said  unto him, Wherefore have thy servants  set  my field  on fire?  [32] And Absalom  answered  Joab,  Behold, I sent  unto thee, saying,  Come  hither, that I may send  thee to the king,  to say,  Wherefore am I come  from Geshur?  it had been good  for me to have been there still: now therefore let me see  the king's  face;  and if there be  any iniquity  in me, let him kill  me. [33] So Joab  came  to the king,  and told  him: and when he had called  for Absalom,  he came  to the king,  and bowed  himself on his face  to the ground  before  the king:  kissed  Absalom. 

What does 2 Samuel 14:21-33 Mean?

Contextual Meaning

Joab"s masquerade proved effective. David agreed to allow Absalom to return to Jerusalem ( 2 Samuel 14:21). However, even though he did not execute him, neither did David restore Absalom to fellowship with himself ( 2 Samuel 14:24). His forgiveness was official but not personal. This led to more trouble. Thankfully God both forgives us and restores us to fellowship with Himself.
2 Samuel 14:25-27 give information about Absalom that helps us understand why he was able to win the hearts of the people. He was not only handsome but also a family man.
"A strong growth of hair was a sign of great manly power ..." [1]
"What Absalom proudly considers his finest attribute will prove to be the vehicle of his ultimate downfall (cf. 2 Samuel 18:9-15)." [2]
How often this proves to be true. Two hundred shekels ( 2 Samuel 14:26) equal five pounds in weight. Absalom was attractive physically, but not correspondingly attractive to God spiritually, because he put his own ambitions before God"s plans. In these respects he was similar to Saul.
Absalom then lived in Jerusalem for two years, about982-980 B.C. ( 2 Samuel 14:28; cf. 2 Samuel 13:38). During these years he resented David"s treatment of him. He regarded himself as a prisoner in Jerusalem. He was willing to suffer death for his murder of Amnon or to receive a true pardon, but the present compromise was unbearable ( 2 Samuel 14:32). When Absalom pressed for a personal reconciliation with his father, David finally conceded ( 2 Samuel 14:33), which David should have done at least two years earlier.
I believe David handled Absalom as he did partly because David"s conscience bothered him; he himself had sinned greatly. This seems clear from 2 Samuel 14:1-20. David"s approach offended Absalom and contributed to his desire to seize the throne from his father.
The entire chapter is the story of a father and king caught between his responsibilities to be both just and merciful. Every parent and leader eventually finds himself or herself in David"s position. God Himself had to find a solution to this dual responsibility. The chapter deals with how to discipline. David"s solution was to compromise. He tried to punish Absalom by keeping him in exile but not executing him. Then he allowed him to return to Jerusalem but not to have fellowship with himself. Both of these compromises failed and only made the relationship worse. God"s solution is to be merciful, to forgive and welcome back warmly and quickly (cf. 2 Samuel 12:13; Matthew 6:12; Matthew 6:14-15; Luke 15:11-24). Perhaps David was reluctant to pardon Absalom because his son did not repent. At least the text says nothing about his doing so. Nevertheless, David"s lack of true forgiveness bred a bitter attitude in Absalom that resulted in his organizing a coup to overthrow his father (ch15). The law demands justice, but "mercy triumphs over justice" ( James 2:13). A police officer who pulls you over for speeding can give you justice (a citation) or mercy (a warning). A murderer on death row can receive justice (execution) or mercy (a governor"s pardon). The offender"s attitude plays a part in the decision in every case, but ultimately the choice belongs to the person in power. A godly person will plan ways so the estranged may come back into fellowship ( 2 Samuel 14:14).